Where's Melania?!!

Should we care?

It is a little strange though.


Leave her alone. I can’t STAND Trump and hate him as much as the next guy, but criticism of Melania for not performing her First Lady duties are sexist and outdated. I read one article that pointed out that the White House didn’t have an official florist because she hadn’t yet selected one. Wtf, I didn’t see her running for election or applying for the job, she just had the misfortune of being married to the asshat who ran.  If the spouse of the Pres WANTS the duties, fine, but in this day and age expecting the wife of a politician to also be a public figure by default is pretty damned sexist. And let’s be perfectly honest here, if Hillary had won no one would have batted an eye if Bill Clinton declined to hire a florist or pick out the china pattern for a state dinner 


I just hope she's ok.

She's living with a man who's lawyer claims he could kill the director of the FBI with impunity.  Scary stuff.


No one is criticizing her for not doing her “job”. She hasn’t been seen for three weeks. That is of concern


exactly. Honestly, I would be fine if she chose to stay in NY and play no official role at all. Seems like it might have made her happier.


I am concerned for her health. Odd surgery, odd hospital stay and no appearances for over 3 weeks. Not “no official appearances” but literally not being seen for over 3 weeks is odd.


Sounds like she'll be out tomorrow night: 

https://www.cnn.com/2018/06/03/politics/melania-trump-return-public-gold-star-ceremony/index.html

Should we care?  Hmm, not really.  If it was more than 2 months - that's another story.


jamie said:
 If it was more than 2 months - that's another story.

 Jamie, why the two month cutoff for worrying? Obviously you've never been a Jewish mother! Worrying starts about hour 25!


jamie said:
Sounds like she'll be out tomorrow night: 
https://www.cnn.com/2018/06/03/politics/melania-trump-return-public-gold-star-ceremony/index.html

 Ceremony closed to the press. Therefore..NOT an appearance!


Three weeks is about how long it takes a shiner to disappear.

Just saying.....


It can also be how long it takes to recover from surgery, especially if you aren't particularly motivated to get back to your usual activities.


Klinker said:
Three weeks is about how long it takes a shiner to disappear.
Just saying.....

 Exactly what I've been thinking. No doubt in my mind there is domestic violence going on.

Also, I read that she lives in Potomac with her parents.


“no doubt”? That’s a pretty big leap to make an assumption like that. He’s a pig but I don’t think there’s a shred of evidence of violence from him domestic or otherwise.


I was thinking that her medical condition is much more serious than she is sharing (fully her right too). Others I know think maybe a little nip and tuck that needs to heal.


librarylady said:


jamie said:
 If it was more than 2 months - that's another story.
 Jamie, why the two month cutoff for worrying? Obviously you've never been a Jewish mother! Worrying starts about hour 25!

 It's always been obvious to me that jamie is not a Jewish Mother.

OTOH if you would let 24 hours pass until you started worrying I have my doubts about you.


conandrob240 said:
“no doubt”? That’s a pretty big leap to make an assumption like that. He’s a pig but I don’t think there’s a shred of evidence of violence from him domestic or otherwise.

Yes. Lets just disregard Ivana's rape legal deposition.

What followed was a “violent assault,” according to Lost Tycoon. Donald held back Ivana’s arms and began to pull out fistfuls of hair from her scalp, as if to mirror the pain he felt from his own operation. He tore off her clothes and unzipped his pants.

“Then he jams his penis inside her for the first time in more than sixteen months. Ivana is terrified… It is a violent assault,” Hurt writes. “According to versions she repeats to some of her closest confidantes, ‘he raped me.’”

Or his grab them by the p**** comment. If someone told me he grabs them by the p****, I'll just respond that's OK, I know you don't mean it and even if you did its not assault.


conandrob240 said:
“no doubt”? That’s a pretty big leap to make an assumption like that. He’s a pig but I don’t think there’s a shred of evidence of violence from him domestic or otherwise.


I was thinking that her medical condition is much more serious than she is sharing (fully her right too). Others I know think maybe a little nip and tuck that needs to heal.

 There's Ivana's rape charge, which she has since retracted, but the account is still pretty disturbing.

https://www.thedailybeast.com/ex-wife-donald-trump-made-me-feel-violated-during-sex

ETA: Oops, BG9 beat me to it.


The humiliation she has been through with her disgusting husband's cheating might be part of it.

And there is the recent surgery.


As for people who say, "She didn't sign up for this":

When an individual runs for high office, and that individual is married, there is extensive discussion between the spouses. Running for office and governing involves and affects the entire family. Normal couples decide together. Do you think Barack Obama didn't discuss his presidential run extensively with Michelle before deciding? But DJT and Melania are not a normal couple. What do you think? Do you think the two of them sat down over coffee and had a heart-to-heart?

True, she didn't "sign up" for this because her ersatz husband does whatever his wants. HOWEVER, she signed up for and stayed in the marriage, knowing who he is and what he does. She has agency.


shoshannah said:
As for people who say, "She didn't sign up for this":
When an individual runs for high office, and that individual is married, there is extensive discussion between the spouses. Running for office and governing involves and affects the entire family. Normal couples decide together. Do you think Barack Obama didn't discuss his presidential run extensively with Michelle before deciding? But DJT and Melania are not a normal couple. What do you think? Do you think the two of them sat down over coffee and had a heart-to-heart?
True, she didn't "sign up" for this because her ersatz husband does whatever his wants. HOWEVER, she signed up for and stayed in the marriage, knowing who he is and what he does. She has agency.

 She didn't sign up for this makes sense if, as has been written in various accounts of the campaign, there was never any intention of winning, only of coming in second and using the cache to start up a media channel based on being anti-Hillary.


she signed up to be the pampered wife of a billionaire. Doing what she wants, when she wants. She was not a politicians wife. She didn’t sign up to be constantly publicly scrutinized, serve the American people or represent this country. I don’t blame her for not wanting any part of this. If she had guts, she’d divorce him but I can’t even imagine how hard that’d be and the crazy firestorm that would ensue under the circumstances. I think she’s doing her best in what I imagine is a terrible situation for her.


I supose she could’ve told him, do not run for Prez but I don’t think he solicited her permission. Obama always made it clear that Michelle had full veto on their decision to run. If she’d said no, that was it.  

I don’t blame her. I would lay low too and count the days like it was prison break. 


Trump wasn't even in office for one month before a lawyer for Melania claimed in a lawsuit that her "brand" had "lost significant value" and that Trump's election had diminished "major business opportunities that were otherwise available to her."


https://apps.npr.org/documents/document.html?id=3456369-Melania-Trump-v-Mail-Media


I can't have any sympathy, whatsoever, for someone who chose to live their life with a man like Trump. She seems pretty sharp - it's unlikely she didn't see what a pile of crap Trump was, but was willing to put that aside for "the life".

What comes around....


drummerboy said:
I can't have any sympathy, whatsoever, for someone who chose to live their life with a man like Trump. She seems pretty sharp - it's unlikely she didn't see what a pile of crap Trump was, but was willing to put that aside for "the life".

What comes around....

 I'm in complete agreement.


conandrob240 said:
she signed up to be the pampered wife of a billionaire. 

 She signed up to be the wife of a professional celebrity.  When you marry into a family of media whores, you give up a certain amount of your expectations of privacy.



I don’t have any sympathy but I also don’t think this was the deal she signed up for.


I strongly suspect he promised her that he wouldn't win the election. Big oops.


I don’t think he cares what she wants or thinks. It doesn’t exactly seem like an equal marriage. He wouldn’t feel like he had to promise her anything. He does whatever he wants. 


There is a saying, “When you marry for money, you earn every cent”, which I think in her case is true.  She certainly knew what he was when she married him, and probably thought she would live a nice life and be a young, rich widow.


I guess she is recovering from another face lift and is too puffy for photos of her face.  I think it takes about 3 weeks for her face to return to normal.


conandrob240 said:
I don’t have any sympathy but I also don’t think this was the deal she signed up for.

I agree.  I'm sure she had a major anxiety attack on election night. She was not looking forward to being First Lady. At all.



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